Compiled by Jacob Terranova
The holidays are an especially tough time for families missing their
loved one. For many, the empty chair at a holiday dinner serves as a
painful reminder of what’s missing.
But it’s important to remember that you aren’t alone. Below are some
inspiring articles of people who’ve shared their message of hope and
coping with holiday grief. We hope their messages bring a little light
during your holiday season.
The author reached out to his friends and asked them how they coped
with loss during a day set aside for giving thanks. Their responses
ranged from creating new Thanksgiving Day rituals to cooking the turkey
“just as Nana taught us, until the smell drifts from the kitchen into
the living room and on into the dining room where a table is set with
those same silver dishes.”
The two authors of the grief blog,
What’s Your Grief,
share their favorite internet clips that make them happy. And they hope
you’ll find some joy in them too. The clips range from “
The Happiest Facts to Make You Smile” to a Thanksgiving flash mob. If you’re looking for something to watch this Thanksgiving, their list is a great place to start.
The article states that while there are no right or wrong ways to
celebrate the first holiday after the loss of a loved one, there are
ways to ease the pain of holiday grief. The author shares advice from
grief counselors and therapists on how to turn the holidays into a time
for healing. “It’s important to remember that you’re allowed to be
happy, you’re allowed to be sad, you’re allowed to be whatever you
need,” social worker Amy Sales wrote.
Dr. Horsley
is an internationally renown grief expert and bereaved parent. In her
article on holiday grief, she shares her seven tips to help families
heal during the holidays. She suggests finding ways to incorporate the
memory of your loved one into new rituals. A few of her ideas include:
- Decorating a wreath with items that remind you of your loved one.
- Displaying pictures of your favorite memories of your loved one.
- Lighting a candle or giving a toast in honor of your loved one.
In this article, we share 6 tips for helping children manage their
first holidays without a loved one. It’s also packed with holiday grief
activities for children, including remembrance ornaments and memory
lanterns.
Jeanne Davis, the senior vice president of a New York City hospice
center, shares her 10 tips on holiday healing. Her most important
takeaway is to remind us that love does not end in death. She writes,
“During the holidays and throughout the year, we keep our loved ones
alive by the way we live our life, buoyed by their memories, fortified
by their values and shepherded by their love.”
The two grief bloggers share 16 creative ideas to creating new
rituals to help honor your loved ones. Remake their favorite holiday
dish or dessert. Create a holiday playlist. Donate to a charity in their
name. The list is full of ideas to inspire ways we can honor our loved
ones.
Labels: Holiday Grief